I think we can trust people to know what their OWN names are, thats not a mental stretch, there! They can convey the same info in a phone call. (Of course, the rule if one parent is a foreigner gave you a much wider berth because you could use a name from his/her culture which would otherwise not be acceptable. Her dismissal letter described the topics as a subject on which the agency must remain neutral.. US Secretary of State Antony Blinken gave the orders to send these messages. Big kerfuffle a few years ago when airline staff took a picture of her boarding pass and posted it online. no numbers or stand-alone symbols) and perhaps excluding expletives would be defensible, but beyond that I dont think its for the state to dictate what you call yourslef or your child. I went to a Yoruba naming ceremony years ago, and it was fascinating! The second one is more important: before you take any adverse action with regard to such an employee, consult with your units attorney. It wasnt an uncommon name in Poland at the time. Ive had a lot of success with asking for clarification too. Youre gonna run into trouble when you meet people with multi-part given names, which are for example extremely common in Korea (I met several who dont use a hyphen), or a German Hans Peter, Hans Martin, this is different from US-style middle names! Ugh, being kind is easy and free. I have never before appreciated how easy (and relatively cheap (think less than $50 and good for a year) it is to get a vulnerable persons background check from the police as well as the social services check needed to apply for jobs to work with children here in Alberta, but I do now when I hear that the alternative is a complete disclosure of 25+ years of employment and education. Thanks for sticking with us for a full year. At the same time, you dont have to sound like Miss Manners! Agree. While the recipients may have shared their email addresses with the church office, they might not want it shared with all everyone else. LW #2 I dont know if this is helpful for you, I would have had a very hard time not annoying her with Dirty Dancing references (though as someone whose first name features in a very famous song and has heard everything, I would resist). My sympathies to LW #5! But the employee had not appealed the ban on the signature line, so it stood. Came here to say this. You wont find a job that doesnt ask for these things. Been over a month, havent heard a word from them since. You want to change that stereotype, stop pulling crap like this!. At first I had a mental hiccup with it, but now its just his name. When in doubt, it never hurts to dress up a little (ahem, I mean, lean toward a formal tone). I ignore emails, FB posts, etc if they are just chain things. Im in law enforcement in Australia and everyone has a nicknameDutts, Macca, Wilko, knighty, Richo you get the picture! By depicting themself as sharing it? I am American. I always get frustrated by those indepth forms and often nope out due to frustration about half way through. Messages So now we have a twofold naming system: one that applies to people who are born here in Iceland, and a different system that applies to people who moved to Iceland from somewhere else. And many of the conversations in this thread really assume a mono-cultural childhood and community. In fact, evaluating your compliance strategy as []. (Im puzzled about Fly-Fornication though poor kid cant give a flying f..k). if they send another, I'd reply and ask them to stop (but not delete that sent message..documentation). Thanks for that clarification! Results include: [], Youve likely heard of quiet quitting, but do you know what it actually means? Ive had a similar experience to you with regard to #4. The issue isnt with Jesus, which I think people know is a common name, its with the first name Jesus is our Savior. They wanted a complete employment history from leaving secondary school onwards. Im 40 years old, it would take me hours to list that, and do they really need to know that I worked at a supermarket between age 17 and 19, and then in a factory for a few weeks?! Yeah, you want to change the stereotype? what are the best jobs while youre in school? Pretending that your country is only populated by people of one ethnicity is not a great tradition to preserve as it sounds to me. Mmm. And so I did what I never thought I would do and began trying to find a new job almost immediately after starting one. Its not a thing that takes up any real amount of energy or head space. https://slate.com/human-interest/2013/09/puritan-names-lists-of-bizarre-religious-nomenclature-used-by-puritans.html. Its a horrible thing, a loss of history, a loss of culture, a lack of respect for other peoples personhood. So, funny story. Other children at school didnt spare me ! Name changes are expensive, and children generally cant change them without the permission of their parents. If they have a question about a particular gap, they can ask that candidate directly. Proofread your emails! They are fearful that they dont fit into their companys political culture. Its not a slur, its not hate speech, its legible by computers and easily printed on documents. If its a colleague, then if there isnt an agenda there should at least be a stated purpose for the meeting. Adapt. There also isnt a great nickname for my first name, so when I was about eight I just started introducing myself as Another Zebra. I not only felt dismissed, but also embarrassed asking for something and getting laughed at. I live in the Bible Belt, and I assure you that if they ever interact with anyone outside their own home, those kids are (at the closest) going to be called Chris and Jesus-with the Spanish pronunciation of. So you could very well be repeating that phrase without realizing the meaning when calling someone by a non English name.. time. I live in a country that has similar screening of names, but no requirement for a gendered name. I know there are reasons HR might need to, like Alison suggested, but that doesnt happen often. There are plenty of problems that need improving in the US, but the flexibility in naming is not one of them. It could be that this information is actually useful and OP is fine to self select out of it. The word schwartzer is an associated Yiddish pejorative equivalent to the n-word. Make sure you've included any attachments or links. No. I think the LW is fine to reply about the time though. I agree. For back and forth communication, Ill text or use a web-based messaging tool like Slack. 2d 608, a federal district court case from Kentucky in 2005. Also, if English is the language of the office, the semantics of Christ is my Saviour would be plain to everyone, whereas those of Abdulrahman arent. Not only is it not an improvement, it is fundamentally the same mindset that led to that happening throughout history. I emailed him back to let him know, and he responded (sounding annoyed) that he could try and make something work. Names are super important and personal to the point that anyone with even a passing knowledge of fantasy has heard of the concept of True Names and the power behind someones name. I think its fine to follow up, but its also possible they fund the candidate they wanted. That example is the same as every job application I have ever filled in. If Christ-is-Lord Jones is annoying, disrespectful, or pushy of their religious beliefs in the office, you would deal with that problem, but not by making them change their name. Marvelous Nakamba is a brilliant name. Its a very weird way of doing things and as someone not working in schools I find it baffling. 1. If you know that it will take time to get answers to questions or to comply with a request, send a message back that explains you are working on it, and an approximate time frame of when youll email again. It looks ok with just one changed direction and took some time getting a proper job afterwards gap since 2000. Ive had a bunch of friends with names that are also words in English, and I dont think about the literal meaning every time I talk to them. I know for a fact that they do not read the cover letters!! Would they have been comfortable saying that name? That said, this is going to be complicated by the CDCs new guidance that people who have been vaccinated dont need to mask or distance in most situations something that wasnt the case when you sent in this letter 12 days ago. There is even a book with all acceptable childrens names, and for many years we had one single person (the author of the book) who had the final word if any doubts arose. Perhaps touring the office space during the work day might help? Especially since, as a kid, he insisted on being called Jack and then stuck with it for the rest of his life. So, firing the employee for wearing the cross in violation of the ban was a First Amendment free speech violation. And of course frequently the names are fluid, someone you met as Walking Elk could also be a Standing Soldier. Id say its probably dependent on sector rather than strictly on what youre doing. She said shed had the same problem with her MIL and that was how she trained herself to say Mom without feeling odd about it. Your classmate made me think of a previous column where a LW was having trouble with a co-worker who refused to use his name, King, because the only king they recognized was Jesus. Campus Box 3330 We do not support Stitcher at this time. Irish and Italians used to be considered not white until my parents generation. At the time I worked there she was a 15-year-old girl and new staff always felt uncomfortable using her name, but it very quickly became just another name. Well, no wonder; hiring sounds like a huge PITA. If you make it through all of that your contract is pretty much set in stone and you can only lose your job if the company goes bancrupt. Also, when I was a social worker, there was a parent on my caseload who thought he was going to be president (he had delusions of grandeur) and named his daughter Liberty Ann Justice Lastname. I suspect she now goes by Libby. Why though? It was something super common like Jones or Smith. And plenty of Christians are namedChristian. Chrisethelor. We dont need to look to the government to resolve every unpleasant thing in our lives. After reading through the comments thats my curiosity as well. "To get something you never had, you have to do something you never did" When God takes something from your grasp. I was just looking at a list of banned names around the world. As is the case with the soup called pho, the way Americans who dont speak any Vietnamese tend to pronounce it isnt quite on point with the way fluent Vietnamese speakers pronounce it. I find it very frustrating. His boss was going to try to swap his parking spot with someone that parked on premises that didnt mind parking next door w/ that pass. Which, while there is no doubt that is a true statement about most European ancestral groups, but I think you might be better served by having a goal to aspire to be better than them. To be fair, thats not requested at the outset (I assume, at least, since Im frequently chasing it down), but its definitely common practice in some highly regulated industries. My boss reached out to ask why after manager complained and I explained that I had so much on my plate I didnt have time to attend a meeting without a clear focus because I had to prioritize my time with the multiple projects I was working on. In my workplace and where I now live, youre unlikely to be referred to by your actual name anyway (unless youre disliked or have a real objection). I always have a hard time believing people who say theyve met someone with the name Vagina or Abcde. However I agree with Alison that those names are likely to be shortened, or theyll go by a nickname. Prudie and Furukawa discuss a letter writer whos wondering how to handle resenting his wife for moving them to a new town for her career, and what to do about a Im glad that your country allows some exceptions for recognized minorities I doubt, however, that list is actually inclusive of all the minorities within your country. I have a first name which is very unusual and which was old fashioned when I was given it (although it was more common about 60-70 years earlier, so when I was a small child my mother would ocassionally cause old ladies to jump, when she was telling me firmly not to do something, in public!) In general, she seems really into procedure hopefully she responds to formal feedback that goes through all the channels :/. When youre just trying to sleep somewhere other than your car that night and need all of your possessions to fit into said car so you can move them from hotel to hotel, keeping a meticulous record of all addresses is not at the top of your list of concerns. Like VERY common in all generations. I'd just delete them. Thats whats so gross about these policies. The way I remember it, it was a coworker of a man named King, who did want to call him that, not on religious grounds, but because she felt it implied some authority he didnt have, a.k.a. It could be something mundane like firming up plans for Janes upcoming medical leave to have elbow surgery. If there is any documentation that is needed to facilitate this leave, seems like both parties could benefit from Jane knowing to bring the documentation to the meeting. Im an atheist but I wouldnt be bothered if I had to call someone by a name that was a religious phrase. Also worth noting on the references that, if it was a UK school, they tend to make job offers on the day of the interviews and so collect references from everyone who is being invited to interview in advance. Yeh, youre calling them a name, not making a statement of your own beliefs. I have no idea why you think Im saying that, either! That is different from Allah or Jehovah or Elohim.. When it comes time to say goodbye, add some humanity back into your message with well wishes. I guess grandma was ahead of her time! criminal records checks are so totally normal and if you work in any kind of caring profession you will be totally used to having them. I also went googling Puritan names to find the name this letter was reminding me of: If-Christ-had-not-died-for-thee-thou-hadst-been-damned Barebone. I would like to ask them if they really think God is monitoring the mail server.. We are showing you options for a computer but if you're on a phone or tablet, We are showing you options for a phone or a tablet but if you're on a computer, A Cursed Glass Knick-Knack From Outer Space, Something That May Shock and Discredit You, manage all your newsletter subscriptions here. Get your drawly, nasal bogan voice on and it sounds legit Aussie. Like, do you not get that learning to pronounce unfamiliar names and playing along with practices that dont fully align with your beliefs is something non-white, non-Christian-religious people already have to do every GD day of their lives? In the OPs situation maternity leave and full-time parenting and recovering from illness would be truthful and specific enough for the employer. #1 I worked with someone who name was something like Allah Magnificent. The program is offered in two formats: on-campus and online. If I hear someone address him as Nickname, Im like, Whos Nickname?. sounds like a bad swear word or a straight up extremely charged insult. Indeed. Since election fever is likely to gain intensity as we get closer to November, you should consider setting some boundaries for your employees and their use of electronic communications in political messaging. We need to start embracing unusual-to-us names, myself included. And like most other unusual names or name changes, youll probably find its weird for about the first three weeks and then find yourself wondering why on earth you balked at it. As in all things there is a balance. Here are best wishes, messages, images and greetings you can send your loved ones to mark this holy day. It greatly complicates things for people who have children who cant get vaccinated and/or themselves cannot or live with someone who cannot get vaccinated, because we all know there will be some people who are unvaccinated folks who drop the masks (although I suspect they were the ones not wearing them or wearing them improperly in the first place), but from the employers perspective in making policies, I think its reasonable if employers insist on going by CDC guidelines on this. I do wonder whether some of those will also get smooshed into something that people dont think about when they use the name. I disagree. I agree, but theres a non-zero chance a future employer wont. I am def going to ask for more clarificatio before accepting any meetings. Hes an immigrant, and a really good person. During the late 19th and early 20th centuries, Indians (South Asian, not Native Americans) were also considered white. Im trying to fight that stereotype And normal here actually means feels normal to white people.. Over my career I have taught three boys named Muslim and two named Islam. There are many names that are more mainstream that have religious meaning that we say all the time without thinking. All those given names ending in i! Indeed, employers are prohibited from preventing workers from praying or otherwise exercising their religious beliefs, but a recent case involving a firefighter using Im not saying that its inconceivable there are people who feel that way I did indeed notice I was replying to one, for starters, and I have noticed there are a handful of others here who feel the same way. They decided on Amber for their new daughter. If its too common, it will seem boring and not meaningful. As far as I know, the EEOC doesnt directly say anything or have any guidance about political emails. And hopefully it doesnt come off as rude! Certainly some stick and others dont but its something that certainly repeats. Someone getting hired at a securities firm right out of college would have to provide dates/explanations going back to middle school. See more from Ascend here. What is wrong with people? If you are a member of a recognised minority (these people have been living in the country for hundreds of years), different rules apply. I find it hilarious. Surely if everyone is dear to God, there should be no problem if there were thousands of people running around with that name theyre all dear to God, after all? I do not. James Meredith risked his life doing civil rights work. A lot of English names are ambiguous. Im an atheist but its his name and it doesnt bother me. Mazel tov! Because if not it seems to me that youre agreeing with Lacey, since she differentiated between Jesus and Jess in her first comment. How about sharing my faith with my customers? In these days when we hear the phrase separation of church and state thrown around like its the Gospel, it can be confusing to sort out just whats acceptable behavior in the workplace and in our businesses! I too am from the UK. I asked the grandmother about this afterwards (specifically about the names that were just blurted out), she laughed and said the same thing happens in Nigeria. We experience his love because he first loved us. I am considering taking a pass on those even though I would really like to be considered for one position. I am not a fan of this HR person in #2, at all, but I wonder if some HR people dont like to give the reason for a meeting because sometimes that reason is going to be something they dont want to tell you ahead of time.